Copied from: statueforum.com
First off let’s start with God-willing I will be alive and well to see 2013. This world is becoming so crazy to the point of going to a movie theatre can be detrimental to you health or life. So let’s begin – No, this is not the blog version of the movie “Never Been Kissed.” This is actually me trying to take dating into my own hands and becoming more proactive.
No, this is not a “need to be married in a few months” thing either, it’s just a personal goal. When I say kiss, I mean by a guy I really dig (do people still say dig?). Not some random dude or some drunk guy but by Mr Nice-Who-Has-Some-Long-Term-Potential.
So why this goal? I am playing catch-up to all the go-getter women. I was taught that if you ‘hang back’ the dude will come. Well, coming from a conservative environment, this is the prevailing thought that is not working so well for me-now that I am actually putting some effort into my social life. What have I been doing all this time? Working and enjoying life as a single gal trying to get her career going. So, I have spent 30 odd years focusing on enjoying and career. This has only led me here without a career (left the one I spent time cultivating) and trying to find new ways to enjoy things (and not as a I-am-independent-single-woman).
I am ready to take this relationship, commitment and think-about-someone-else thing seriously. Apparently, I missed the ‘man focused boat’ in my earlier years and has now caught it in my mid-late 30′s. I guess better late than never. The thought of curling up with a cat or dog as I age is not that appetizing.
So, since I have caught the ‘man focused boat,’ I have decided to set some social goals and is hoping to snag a decent chap by the end of the year. Note I did not say marry or engaged or anything that committal. I might be playing catch-up with the rest of the liberal ladies but I am not desperate. I am motivated to make this work because it’s just time and I suspect that people might think I am secretly gay. So I am hoping to avoid any awkward conversations/explanation as to why I am still single :-)
Do I have a potential victim…ummm… guy in mind? There is one but I am keeping my options open. The problem with being proactive is not knowing if the guy will be turned on or off with a woman being ‘forward.’ Despite all that, I have decided to play it by ear but sooner of later my dominant personality (can’t do the damsel in distress character for too long) will come out and I will be able to separate the alfa men from the beta boys.
Happy hunting to me.